Comparisons Reduce Feelings Of Self Worth
Comparing things is part of our everyday life. We compare clothes pricing, quality of vegetable, hair styles, academic achievements and, of course, appearances. Comparing is just a part of life; one thing always seems slightly better than the other, that’s just how the world works, right?
There is always going to be a cheaper option for those pants you liked, or a better looking avocado, or a more appealing hair style on the 30th page than the one on the 27th page, and person in your class will quite possibly get a slightly higher grade than you. And possibly, a person hair, skin, height, weight, waist, butt, breasts, or stomach might be perceived as ‘better’ than yours. But in reality, that’s really not the case.
I constantly compare myself to others; whether it is based on looks, achievements, opinions, overall knowledge, really you name it and I measure myself up against others. And I can’t stand that I do this. But in today’s world it is very easy to be exposed to someone who you think is “better than you”. Social media, such as Instagram, Facebook, and Snapchat are filled with images and stories of unbelievably attractive women; emphasis on the ‘unbelievable’. Social media, along with news sources or simple google searches, highlight the achievements of people my age or younger, doing absolutely amazing things; things that I could only dream of or didn’t even know existed. In the past year, I have become more insecure than ever before. I frequently look into the mirror and I only see my flaws. These perceived flaws are developed from my own comparison of myself to those unbelievable women and models, those extraordinary genius which, even with all the studying in the world, I will never be like. In the past few months I have realized that this is an unhealthy pattern, self-sabotaging, and overall completely wrong.
Comparing things can be very useful, i.e. hotel prices on bookings.com vs. hotel.com. However, it should really only be done when comparing ‘things’ and not people. Every person is different and amazing in their own way and as Hannah Montana once said “no body’s perfect”. So, spending any amount of time looking at images of unrealistically perfect women or men and comparing yourself to them is something we should all stop doing, and we should all start appreciating ourselves and how we look. Everyone in this world is unique in their own way and each person is incomparable to another.